I remember someone asked me if i am already moved and if i am already forgot my ex (my boyfriend before my husband). This is what i said " hindi ako ganito kasaya sa boyfriend ko ngayon kung hindi pa ako nakapag move on pero hindi ko pwedeng sabihing nakalimutan ko na sya dahil naging parte sya ng buhay ko."
After the break up the greatest fear is to face the reality that you are already alone. When you are still in a relationship you dreamed and planned together and if the break up happens the future you planned together is crushed down. It is just like writing in a blog you need to delete everything and start all over again-- begins with the scratch.
And here is the question next to it "how will you mend your broken heart?" How can we love again if our hearts are broken? How can you trust again if trust is betrayed? How can you be strong again if you put all your strength in the relationship? How can you be happy again if pain is cripping in your heart?
Most often we fall in love with the person we think we love but to only discover that for them we are just for passing time, while the one who truly loves us remains either a friend or a stranger. Let go when you're hurting too much.Give up when love isn't enough. And move on when things are not like before...
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Like i said earlier, I am a bit hesitant to say anything about this dahil nga "bata" pa ako for such matter as this ;-)
kidding aside, i admire the way you tackle this issue of falling in love, getting hurt and moving on.This might help some people shake some off some of their blues, you'll never know...
To substantiate (parang legal issue lng? lols!) your stand further, let me share with you something that i got from 1 of my "ex"s, though i'm not sure if i can call him that since we all often get ourselves into some awkward relationships when we're much younger, like i was just 14 y/o then...
yes! i know! ang aga! hahaha!
when we found each other again, after almost 25 y/o, he says:
There comes a point in your life when you realize:
Who matters,
Who never did,
Who won't anymore...
And who always will.
So, don't worry about people from your past,
there's a reason why they didn't make it to your future.
and he went furthermore:
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need
you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with
guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a God send and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled,
their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come
to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real.
But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build
upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have
learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
Now, pls!
Dont ask me what is it that he was trying to say to me exactly! hahahaha!
Thing is, he does makes sense...right?
Lydez, you know how crazy of a Ninang I am, dont you? In fact, unlike my "ex" whose got some sound ideas to impart, i only have this to share naman:
BF: Love, sino yang tinitingnan mo?
GF: Sorry love, tinitingnan ko ung lalaki na un...sya ung EX ko na naging lasenggo after our break-up 7 years ago...
BF: grabe! ang haba ng celebration, ha!
:-))
Hays, inaanak ko... "is hurt!" kung "is hurt!" but you are right to say that we all better take every realationship in stride.
Let's enjoy the relationship we have while we have it and be thankful (not that it's over, lols!) that we had it the moment we lost it...
Unless, we decide to really fight for someone we feel we just can never live without.
wow ninang sobrang haba ng comment mo sa haba ata pwede ko nang ipost as blog. thanks for being patience to read all my blogs. I know minsan makulit na ako kakasabi na please pakibasa blog ko at pamimilit na magcomment dto. thanks for the time ninang.
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